Happiness is one of those things that happens when the pieces begin falling into place. Imagine the world as a giant puzzle and each person a smaller collection of pieces that create one focal point of a bigger picture. Happiness is when those pieces finally come together and everything becomes more clear; it all starts to make sense.
You might start out with a general idea of “the way things are supposed to be”. This is your plan, but you’ll quickly discover that executing a plan is never as easy as you might first imagine it to be. You can match like colors and differentiate between all of life’s obstacles. This takes time and effort. There will be a lot of confusion and chaos, typically followed by frustrations and sometimes anger. Sometimes you will forget that this is normal and that everyone experiences similar situations and problems on their journey. Just remember that every piece, no matter how upsetting, difficult, or irritating, is essential to complete the whole. It’s a lot of trial and error. Then, one day you’ll wake up and something will just click. You made it through the screaming, tear-filled, restless nights. You don’t have to argue and fight this uphill battle today. You realized something important along the way. You remembered the bigger picture, the end goal, the thing you’ve been working so hard for. A piece fell into place.
So take a break, sit back, and celebrate this victory. Enjoy the little things so you’ll find the strength to endure another day. Cherish what you have presently. Don’t let the frustrations of yesterday weigh on you anymore and don’t let the fears of tomorrow push you to giving up. Let’s focus on our happiness to keep it alive as long as we can because one day we will find two pieces that don’t fit and it will be discouraging, but memory will remind us that while some things don’t work out, others do. We will find happiness again.
I’m recovering from a low point in my life. It’s hard to rise above the pressures weighing down on you, especially when they attack from multiple fronts. Between my final semesters in college, searching for a job to kickoff my career, and juggling my personal life I had become something of a wreck. I’ve made poor decisions and attempted to hide from them. I lied to myself and hurt the people closest to me. I did a lot of foolish things in the name of delusion. It’s difficult to admit, but it’s the truth. It happened. But, it’s also in the past now.
The sweet and beautiful thing about hitting rock bottom is the ability to see things in a new light. The realization that all of your reassurances were false and the scenery you’ve been imaging doesn’t exist is a sobering experience. It’s a moment of clarity that hits you from out of nowhere and left me stunned. If I’m being honest it’s both terrifying and thrilling, but mostly terrifying. The worst part is knowing that I was responsible for the hole I dug and that the collateral, everyone who visited me in my pit of denial, are irreversibly affected in some way by my mistakes. While it wasn’t my intention to cause harm, the fact remains that I did and for someone like me who cares deeply, it stings. Fortunately, I’ve had time to process. I can now say that while I am deeply sorry for my mistakes, I also accept that the past is beyond my reach to change. I found a way to come to terms with myself and now I’m able to breathe again.
I want to revise an earlier statement. The worst part is remembering the wreckage left behind, knowing that it exists in its current state because of my choices. But, the best part is that I got to start over. Despite all of the shame I may have felt I was able to see new opportunities I never thought possible. The unknown is still daunting and Lord only knows where my path will take me, but this time is different. This time my choices are for me. This time there won’t be any lies. This time I won’t accept contentment; I will strive for what makes me happy. This time things will be different because if I’m being honest I have changed and I am better for it.
This is a bit personal and a little dated at this point. It’s something I’ve tried to write about but could never put into the right words until now. With the wax and wane of inspiration it wasn’t until now that I found enough of my voice to share this. It’s not the brightest of topics, but if there’s anything to take away from this it is that change isn’t always a bad thing. You may make mistakes in life that bring great shame, but mistakes are part of all of us and their lessons are what help us grow. I have dramatically changed from the person that I used to be and in the beginning it terrified me. I’ve come to realize the beauty of change in that it opens the door to possibilities we never imagined. It allowed me to see the world in a new light. I hope that anyone struggling with themselves, anyone on the road to self-discovery, anyone unhappy with the place they’re in… Please don’t accept contentment. Fight for your happiness and your individuality. As much as it hurts to leave people and things behind us, you’ll only hurt yourself more if you pretend everything is okay when it’s not. I speak from experience.
Stare grimly into the faces of the despondent
Wondering what words they’d speak,
Should their voices erupt in chorus.
Chains shackle them to the undertow,
Juggernaut strength wrestling with their souls.
Tumultuous cries and unparalleled ferocity,
Raking soft flesh like claws of the beast.
As strength wanes and the tide breaks,
Their skulls wash upon the beaches of eternity
Where we will build anew.
Written By: Hollie Barringer, 2015
Written By: Hollie Barringer
We built this up to tear it down, from crown to foundation
Our story ripe with good intention, spoilt by untamed desire
This was a creation of our devising, an existence seeking perfect synergy
You the heart, and I the blood flowing through
Neither whole without the other
We tore this down to build it up, from foundation to crown
Our story riddled with poor intention, held together by a greater power
This was a creation of His devising, an existence with true synergy
We the body, filled by the living soul
Neither whole without the other